TWO KINDS OF INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS

 

 

Original article posted on February 1st 2016 by Cailloux

THE DICHOTOMY BETWEEN THE SOUL’S REALITY AND THE EGO’S REALITY

The inner serenity is distinguishable from the psyche serenity.

This issue affects the dichotomy that exists between the soul’s reality and the ego’s reality.

The reincarnated person constantly lives this state of duality.

Even when the awaken Ego aligns itself, in terms of vibration, with the soul and later with the Spirit, it still lives in the relational reality.

The awaken Ego, aligned with the Self, finds the right centring and harmonisation with itself. However, the awaken Ego keeps living in the incarnate reality also trough the relationship with the external environment and with other individuals, that it encounters along its own path of the becomingness.

It is true that relationships are the mirror of one’s own evolutionary needs, in awareness of self-knowledge and the knowledge of the truth. But it is also true that the meaning of relationships rests on other foundations.

These concern the Law of Attraction and the Law of Resonance.

The Law of Attraction takes action on the subject of echoes that are promulgated by thoughts or external projections of yourself (constraints, conditions, beliefs, desires, your own experience, fears).

The Law of Resonance takes action when the echoes of individuality in their entirety attract vibrating waves of the same kind.

Hence, there are two types relationships.

The first type belongs to the conditions and the situations of becomingness.

The second type belongs to the conditions and the situations of being, therefore of Truth.

The first classification is children of basic needs of the not-awaken Ego or the Ego that is not harmonized with the Higher Self.

The second one, is children of deep needs of the soul that enters into the transmutation process, the rise process. (The rise process means the awaken soul’s start to a gradual process of alchemic transmutation, that is able to harmonise and reunite the soul itself to its Higher Self, where the Seal of God exists; our true Essence, out true Identity, our authenticity and uniqueness).

Hence, the meaning of the first type is significant for experimentation, for achieving awareness that leads to awakening, to awareness of the real significance of Love, through no-love situations (situation of suffering, sense of dissatisfaction, states of competition, prevarication and manipulation…)

The second type, promotes relationships of the soul’s complementary for a process of integration in Love and through Love, in order to be Love (love’s transformation from attribute to being).

At this stage, then, the relationships dress up with the Aura of Love.

Love is lifeblood, it’s joy, it’s peace, it’s fulfilment, it’s union, it’s sharing in the purity of intentions and actions.

Translation by Carlotta Cimatti

HOW TO IMPROVE OUR RELATIONSHIPS – Part 3

 

Original article posted on January 26th by Cailloux

  • Show up with a sense of responsibility and take potential risk (courage to get involved beyond one’s own vulnerability and fear).

  • Be proactive to overcome the crises (meeting the needs of the other, without giving up on yourself and what your conscience says).

  • Express your own motivations (the reason behind a specific behaviour), your own intentions, your own needs through dialogue.

  • Put the other at ease, to ensure that they can freely say what they think and the way they feel (free from judgment, but with acceptance).

  • Always be yourself without masks and calculated strategies.

  • Don’t let your own fear and anxiety handle your life. Fear and anxiety lead to wrong behaviour and wrong decisions (poor lucidity and lack of balance).

  • Don’t feed anger with grudge, resentment, hatred and projection of your own grey areas and your own life experience on the other.

  • Feed and nourish the relationship, never taking anything for granted.

  • Say three key words (Pope Francis): can I?, thank you, I’m sorry.

Translation by Carlotta Cimatti

HOW TO IMPROVE OUR RELATIONSHIPS – Part 2

 

Original article posted on January 26th by Cailloux

  • Don’t judge. Value the behaviour, not the person.

  • Relate by comparing and exchanging, in the desire and in the commitment to change what we need to change for the relationship’s sake.

  • Understand the meaning of every relationship as a mirror and as an experience for personal growth.

  • Prepare for listening to yourself and to the others.

  • Get out from one’s own point of view in order to extend the visual horizon (misunderstanding, misinterpretation, misconceptions, rigid schematic approaches, biased views, strong stances…) and become available to the clarification.

  • Try to understand what is behind the controversy (accepting the other’s fragility from the perspective of willingness to provide assistance and support).

Translation by Carlotta Cimatti

HOW TO IMPROVE OUR RELATIONSHIPS – Part 1

Original article posted on January 26th by Cailloux

In the spiritual and psychological sense, the meaning of relationships is to get to know each other and to bring out parts of ourselves (Mirror Law), .through the comparison with the other , in order to become aware about it.

Whatever relational situation, including the one we regard as negative, because it is source of frustration or pain, expresses the right experience for everyone, as each one attracts to themselves what they need.

Hence, the other serves as teacher, in order to get to awareness, necessary for one’s own evolution.

It is of fundamental importance, in order to develop a objective vision of your individuality, to gain the propensity to the neutral, careful and continuous observation of yourself

It is always good to become aware of your thoughts, your feelings, your emotions and actions in order to highlight possible contradictions, conflicts and inconsistencies between what you think, what you feel, what you say and what you do.

A balanced approach, dominated by the issue of harmony, makes good relationships.

For this purpose, there are several ingredients.

Among these, the following considerations:

  • Overcome the excessive individualism and identification with your own role and your own roles (ego-centred vision). This approach is the result of the idea of separation between the “self” and “you” and the result of ego’s ambition to achieve roles of prestige and privilege, according to status symbol. The self feels threatened by the other, and every action by the other is frequently seen as an invasion within his own territory.

  • Prevent the hierarchy of roles (rigid positions and power struggles), but pursue the respect and acceptance of role’s differences in terms of confrontation and dialogue.

  • Express empathy, acceptance, honesty and loyalty.

  • Converse with the other through an assertive communication (put our interlocutor on the same level).

Translation by Carlotta Cimatti